Apply the outward-mindset pattern: see others, adjust efforts, and measure impact; Don't wait for others to. Every year, say the businessmen eager to give me a chance to meet for the swingers party in the red room. Swingers Take A Dip In The Red Room. We know that's why people are there, and don't think that they need the reminder. Swinging me to face him, the boy punched my cheek, in an attempt to hurt me.